Connection conveys the emotional ties and relationships you have with people. Expressing your wants and needs can be challenging at times. During change, as your values, interests, and touch points fluctuate, it becomes even trickier, especially as you embrace new behaviors and habits and let go of the old.

How you relate also changes.

Transitions from point A to point B are messy. You may feel conflicted about taking action if those close to you are comfortable with the status quo. As a result, a sense of misalignment with yourself can occur, where you return to old patterns just to be on the same wavelength with them.

Stay committed and communicate with compassion.

You must be secure in where you’re headed before involving others, as they can mirror back to you any uncertainty you’re feeling. Be open and honest with those you trust that you’ll share updates and progress when ready. However, for now, you need the space to gain confidence and traction.

It’s also crucial to limit sending mixed messages. The Fundamental Interpersonal Relations Orientation (FIRO®) assessment is a great way to uncover how:

  • You come across to others – and why this may not be the way you see yourself.
  • To understand and manage your own needs in interpersonal interactions.
  • And why conflict develops between well-meaning people.

A high need for connection.

If you find yourself requiring consistent external validation and approval, your need for connection as defined by the FIRO® Business instrument may be high. It can be the root cause of any resistance you’re experiencing to make the changes you want. To define your need state, ask yourself, “Can I learn to reassure myself rather than relying on others for support?” and “Can I learn to depend on what I think, versus being too dependent on what others think?”

Limiting beliefs show up in how we view and interact with our world. It’s easy to forget what our true priorities are in life when we get hyper-focused on one outcome or pleasing a particular person. Often this happens when we get into a cycle of uncertainty. To break this cycle, try to find balance within yourself to strengthen your resiliency. Another helpful way to get centered is through journaling. Here are a few writing prompts to get your creative ideas flowing.

You don’t need to go it alone.

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